As most baby’s are, I too was pretty cute. Even if they thought I was going to be a girl. There I am in my brother’s arms at almost one year old. See I told you I was cute. Kinda chubby too I guess.
A significant number of children today are being raised in single parent homes, and I was no different. Through many generations divorce, broken lives, and relationships have hung like chestnuts on our family tree. Oh. Did I mention I think we might have a few in our family? I mean nuts. You know. The family members who are just a little bit stranger than most. The kind that you are always a little hesitant to invite to the family reunion for fear of what they might say or do. Oh yeah, you’re thinking of that family member now, and remembering the last get together aren’t you? For those who cannot remember I have a warning for you. I’ve heard it said, “If you can’t think of which family member is nuts, it might just be you.” Now that I think about it, I can’t put my finger on one in my family. I guess in the Bland family, the nut must be me.
I seem to digress. Where was I? Oh yes, separation, divorce, and geographical distance caused our family to grow apart. Dad took the other four children and moved to Alberta. Me? Well I stayed with mom. The next time the five of us children would be in the same place at the same time was in 2003. If you do the math, you will quickly recognize that this reunion was 32 years in the making.
At least Lynn thinks I’m still cute after all of these years. She adds, “You may be a bit chubby too.”
In 32 years a lot of water has passed under the proverbial bridge, and some of it we will get to navigate together here on Pro-Active Parent Coaching.
I’ve been asked, “Do you ever wish you had different circumstances growing up?” My answer remains consistent. “No! Actually I don’t.”
Many might look at our circumstances growing up and ‘feel sorry for us’ or be moved with pity. It is through those circumstances, and experiences that I have become the man I am today. I’ve seen first hand sacrifice, tough decisions, and hard calls. For that I am thankful. I’ve also felt the pain of not having a relationship with a Dad in the home, or outside the home for that matter, but this has served to sensitize me to the real life issues many face today. For this, I am also thankful.
There is a passage of Scripture that comes to mind as I write this afternoon, it says, “God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. 4 He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.” ( 2 Corinthians 1:3-4)
As our journey begins on Pro-Active Parent Coaching, I trust that you will connect with, relate to, and enjoy the experience. My prayer is that you may grow in your understanding of God and His work in and through you, yourself, and your family. I also hope you recognize that you can live free from the past, and above the limitations that statistics may try to place upon you.
All of these experiences, and many more, have shaped who I am and how I approach parenting. Parenting truly does begin before you have children.
Until next time,
Enjoy your journey in parenting
Your friend and pro-active parent coach