“Dad Rules: Simple Manual for a Complex Job” by Treion Muller To be released April 2012

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Recently I had the privilege of reading Treion Muller’s soon to be released book “Dad Rules: A Simple Manual for a Complex Job.” As you can see from the cover design the book is very attractive and appealing.  Unlike some books, though, the content quality of “Dad Rules” exceeds the appeal and quality of the outward packaging.

From the beginning I was captivated by Treion’s writing style.  His use of wit and humor to communicate profound truths (Rules as Treion calls them)  inspired me to be a great dad, but further to take action, making the influence I have upon my children a positive one.

There were moments I found affirmation, “Hey, I do that!”, moments where I relived special memories with my own children, and moments when I thought, “That is a great rule, I’ll add that to my parenting.”   All in all,  “Dad Rules: A Simple Manual for a Complex Job” is packed with tid bits of wisdom and practical suggestions on how to be a dad that positively impacts his children.

Throughout the book we catch glimpses of Treion’s life and one thing that stands out most to me is his strong belief that the wisdom and learning we receive is not to be kept to ourselves but shared with others.  ‘Dad Rules’ is the result of this belief put in action.  Further he encourages us as dad’s to do the same, what we have received and learned, share with another dad who might benefit from it.  Rule 81: “In rule 4 you were encouraged to ask other dads for advice, and in this rule you are encouraged to return the favor and look for opportunities to share what you have learned with other dads.”

‘Dad Rules’ is a book that I will pick up and read more than once and I am confident you will not simply enjoy reading this book but be inspired  to be a great dad too.   To learn more about ‘Dad Rules’ visit Treion’s website.  To pre-order your copy of ‘Dad Rules’ visit Amazon or Barnes and Noble.

 

About Treion Muller

Treion-Muller-Dad-Rules Treion Muller is a self-proclaimed “father in motion” of five delightful—but not perfect—children. Treion moved to the US from South Africa in 1995 to complete his bachelors and masters degrees in adult learning. He is currently Franklin Covey’s Chief eLearning Architect, business book author, national presenter, and social media and online learning expert.

New Book “Dad Rules: Simple Manual for a Complex Job” by Treion Muller

Dad-Rules-CoverI just received the manuscript for “Dad Rules: Simple Manual for a Complex Job” that is  being released in April 2012.  After opening the the book, I began to read and was captivated by Treion’s writing style.  It is a well written, witty, and insightful book that will make you smile, laugh out loud, and seriously consider your influence as a Dad.  Upon completion of this great book, I will post more thoughts for your consideration.  If you would like to know a bit more about the book, check out Treion’s website, and slip on over and pre-order your copy today.  I am confident you will enjoy it.

Until next time, remember the influence you have upon your children!
Your friend and pro-active parent coach
Gregory Bland

Giving the One Eyed Monster a Rest by Gregory Bland

remoteIt seems it might be time to give our TV that much needed break.  The noise has echoed down our hallway much too long, lulling those who sit and gaze into its monstrous eye toward passivity.  Research has already shown the incredible effects of tv viewing upon our children and teens but think about the amount of time that is spent in this passive activity.

“The latest study by Kaiser foundation indicates that the next generation is already addicted to TV. The study found that kids, age 8-18, still watch about 4 hours of TV per day. On top of TV, they spend a couple hours playing with video games and computers. The grand total for kids was 6 hours 20 minutes per day. The study avoids the “A” word, but how else would you describe a generation who watches so much TV, videos, and games that they are labeled the “M” (Media) Generation?”

The next time your child is watching tv observe them and consider, “What is my child doing (or better yet not doing) while they are sitting here gazing at the tv?”

My heart as a Dad is to maximize every opportunity I can to create an environment of relational connection with my children/teens.  With statistics indicating that children and teens are spending several hours each day in front of the television my mind races with the potential of redeeming this time that would otherwise be wasted.

What potential benefits do you see taking place within the family if we simply redeemed the time that is being spent in front of the television set?

One of the biggest benefits within my own mind is the potential for fostering an environment of relational connection with my children.  I understand that every moment we spend together may not result in that deep heartfelt conversation, but I desire to create an environment in which these conversations can take place most naturally.  Simply put, quality time takes place amidst the quantity time.

I guess one of the hardest things to consider is, what do we do once we have flicked the switch to off and are left sitting, staring at one another?

Over the course of the next few posts, I will relay ideas to you that you can take, tweak, alter in a way that fits your family and lifestyle.  May this be a rich and rewarding relational experience for you and your family. Be warned though, if this is something that is new to you and your family, it may seem awkward at first, but as you persist you may begin to experience symptoms of growing love, appreciation, and respect for one another.

TV Free Ideas:

  1. Revisit the old board games.  Some of our greatest evenings together have been set      around some old stand bys.  Cranium, Trouble, Yahtzee, Monopoly,      Sorry, and many others.  Break them out of the storage room, blow off      the dust and see what can take place.
  2. Invite some friends over.  Often we would invite friends over if we had the time.       I have always found it interesting that people would sit and watch a      show called friends as opposed to inviting friends over to hang out.       With the newfound time on your hands, it may be great for your      family to reconnect with some old friends.
  3. Read together.  Reading      together can be an incredibly rewarding time and creates memories that can      last a lifetime.  Allowing your imagination to take you to the places      you’re reading about, and acting the stories out can be a great time for      family fun and laughter.
  4. Pass along your skills.  Can you play an instrument?  Are you good at      woodworking, sewing, or knitting?  What practical skills can you pass      along to your children while creating an environment of relational      connection together?
  5. Serve someone else.  In a day and age that tends to serve itself, it does      our children a world of good to see and participate in activities that      serve others.  Is there are retirement or seniors home that would      welcome a family visiting some of their shut ins?  Are their local      stables and / or farms that you could offer your help to?  Shelters,      places that provide care for the less fortunate that would welcome a      family to their volunteer base?  All of these are great opportunities      to instill values within your children while serving together as a family.

Give it a shot, what comes to your mind as you consider redeeming the time with your family?

Until next time,
Enjoy your time together as a family.
Your friend and pro-active parent coach
Greg

Sources:
Television Addiction Is No Mere Metaphor by Robert Kubey and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
Generation M: Media in the Lives of 8-18 Year-olds Kaiser Family Foundation Report

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